Time to Get Out of Dodge

The citizens of “Dodge City” like to dodge problems and conflicts.  They don’t always appear to be literally avoiding.  Dodging has many faces.  It can be obviously deflective – like changing the subject when an uncomfortable topic emerges.  It can look like doing something fundamentally deplorable just to make yourself look good.

Dodging can also be hostile or antagonistic – like hurling an accusation back at someone who just gave you honest feedback you didn’t want to hear.  Or maybe, it’s putting up a smoke screen of some kind so no one else recognizes what you want to hide.

Whatever it looks like, dodging does not address or solve a problem, it flees or fights.  It is coming from a place of reactionary powerlessness and fear.  Sometimes this is called being “passive” or “passive-aggressive”.

The expression “time to get out of Dodge” actually implies making a decision based on a wise assessment.  It’s a reference from the classic TV show, “Gunsmoke”:  Things are looking bad (even dangerous) in Dodge City, Kansas…  You are not shrinking back from a problem or conflict.  You have surveyed the whole town and its inhabitants.  The townsfolk are picking fights or playing dumb at the mention of their misdeeds.  You won’t work toward a win-win here.  Winning this battle requires making an exit.  Ironically, in this case, avoiding a problem is the brave solution.

Have you been lodging in Dodge?  Have you considered leaving Dodge to travel to The Land of Partnership?

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